Pearl of Wisdom #14: “Talk things out with one another”. Yvonne H.

January 18, 2011

Lesson learned:  “The problem with people today is that they just don’t sit down and talk with each other the way we used to.  When there was an issue in our family, my husband and I would simply talk things out until the problem got resolved.”  What Aunt Yvonne implied with that remark was that a consensus was realized by a conversation that was always respectful and civil in tone.  Yes, there was compromise between the two of them, but that was achieved by truly listening and understanding each other’s point of view. 

I could not help make a comparison between Aunt Yvonne’s observation and the plea that President Obama made in the eulogy he delivered during the memorial service for the victims of the Tucson tragedy.  “It’s important for us to pause for a moment and make sure that we are talking with each other in a way that heals, not a way that wounds”, he explained. 

In an age when politics, technology and social media often tend to dictate how people communicate, I hope we can return to the time when simple, honest face-to-face discussions bring about a keener understanding and a kinder dialog among people.   I’m sure Aunt Yvonne would also.